Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Know Thyself

I've been doing a lot of self-reflecting this year. This year (and by year I mean this school year, of course!) has brought a lot of changes for me. Both of my kids are now in school full time for the first time since I became a mother almost 10 years ago, and I had a change in jobs that impacted me quite a bit on an emotional level. As a family we have also been seeing a therapist to work on dealing with the challenging difficulties we have in a household that includes a child with Aspergers. These changes, while difficult, have been very good for me and have really allowed me to see myself and my family in a different way.

As part of this reflection I made a list of things I know about myself to be true. Some of them are deep, and some of them are not, but I think in order to be true to who I really am, I must first recognize that person and honor her.

  • I like the idea of perfection more than I like actually working on it.
  • Even though I don't want to admit it and actually quite dislike doing it, I get more done in the morning.
  • I should workout in the morning if at all possible
  • What I eat for breakfast has a direct correspondence to what I eat for the rest of the day.
  • I like things to be, in my dad's terms, "ever so" which sometimes leads to disappointment.
  • I am my harshest critic.
  • The more I have to do, the more I get done. I do not do well with too much free time.
  • It takes me way longer to do things than I expect it to.
  • I'm slowly coming to the realization that sometimes it is better to just be good enough.
  • I am very patient to a point wherein I have absolutely no patience at all.
  • I am much better at abstaining than I am at moderation.
  • I take myself too seriously.

After this is posted, I am going to bookmark it so I can come back and remind myself to honor who I am every day.

"There are three things extremely hard: steel, a diamond, and to know one's self."
Benjamin Franklin


  1. I could say many of the same things about myself. I know that Kacie could, too. An emergent theme seems to be a breakdown between the "ideal" and the "real"--who you want to be and who you are, how you want things to be and how things are. Is that so? That's certainly the case for me. I've come to realize that (1) I'm a lot closer to who I want to be than I give myself credit for, and (2) who I actually am is not all that bad, even if it's not the ideal George. Those things are easier to say and know than they are to believe.

  2. As a tridaddy I see your list and mirror many. Some I've conquered, so I'm struggling with as well.

    I am much better at abstaining than I am at moderation.

    Ouch. Hits home. Hard.

    Also, working out in the morning - oh good golly I remember the days when I had to get the kids up at 7:40. Get up at 5, workout, relax, then get kids up and go to work. Now... Kid 1 @ 6:30 and Kid 2 @ 7:40. My "dealing with kids" morning has not only doubled in duration but there is no way I can regularly get up at 3:50 to make the workouts work. Especially when Masters swim is 7:30-9:00 FREAKING PM.

    So we adapt. We learn. We adapt.

    you're well under way. Go job trimommy!

  3. Thanks for sharing Kelly. It's humbling to step back and evaluate yourself honestly sometimes, and just as hard to embrace what you find when you do. You and Kel are great people and great parents, roll with the punches and do the best you can do every day!

  4. It sounds like we are a lot alike, Kelly! This is a great list and hopefully it was valuable for you to write it.

  5. I could have written this list. You are awesome. Remember that!


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