Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Trimommy Parenting Tips - Holiday Edition

Now that we are full on into the holiday season, I thought this would be a good time to talk about parenting. Actually, what we are really talking about is how to maintain your sanity, especially if you have young kids in the house. (Even if you don't, I'm guessing some of these tips would work for the men in your life as well!)

  1. It is never to early to use the Santa card to get your children to behave. Ryan is 8, so I'm wondering how much longer this will work in my house, but let me tell you, Noah snaps to the minute I even speak of Santa. The other day I went so far as to pick up my cell phone to call Santa, and you should have seen the look of pure panic on my child's face. It was priceless.
  2. And that brings me to my second tip: fake phone calls are very effective in curbing unwanted behavior. Use this sparingly and only in the most dire circumstances, i.e. you think your head might actually explode any second.
  3. Focus your child's energies on any number of holiday projects. Some of the things I prefer are decorating the house, making home-made decorations, cleaning your room (for Santa, obviously), making Christmas cards, any kind of baking (warning, baking with your children requires quite a bit of patience and latitude with recipes - not for the faint of heart or mind, but the kids love it), watching Polar Express (only allowed in our house between Thanksgiving and New Year's), dance party to Christmas music which is always pre-loaded in the CD player this time of year, coloring contests, vacuuming (for Santa, duh), and anything else that you can possible relate to Santa, Christmas, gift-giving or the holiday season.
  4. When in doubt, take a mommy time-out. There are times when I just get overloaded, so I tell my kids I need a time-out. I go to my room and close my door and just chill for a few minutes. I don't do this very often, so they kind of get freaked out by it and it really seems to calm all of us.
  5. It is hardly ever too cold to play outside. Send those children OUT! (Works great for husbands too!)
  6. Do the unexpected. Sometimes when my kids are really acting up I almost think they are expecting me to get mad, so instead I scoop them up and give them a big hug and tell them how much I love them, even though they are not acting nicely. It usually works.
  7. A walk almost always does everyone some good. It gets dark so early around here, you can go on a Christmas lights walk at 4:30 and still have a great time.
  8. Did I say hot chocolate with whipped cream? The whipped cream must come out of a spray can and it is obligatory to have a spray straight into the mouth for everyone, including mommy.
  9. Try to remember what it was like to be a kid at Christmas. You didn't worry about getting all of the gifts bought and wrapped. You weren't stressed about getting the house decorated just right, or finding the perfect tree. You didn't have to balance work and family and holiday parties and more. When you are a kid, Christmas is that amazing time of year that we look forward to, that is so special you can't even describe how it makes you feel. Remember that and try to make it just as special for your family. Hold onto the beauty and magic and let it be just as special for you!
  10. If all else fails, you can always threaten them with kid jail...

Sunday, November 27, 2011

Giving Thanks

Thanksgiving is a wonderful holiday because it is a very real reminder of what we should be doing everyday: expressing gratitude for all of the wonderful people in our lives, for the wonderful blessings that have been rained down upon us, for family, for shelter, for our basic needs being met and so much more.

I have to admit that I have not been particularly grateful lately. I have been so caught up with my own concerns that I have not taken time to really see what I do have. The warm response all of you gave to my post of a few days ago really reminded me of how much I have to be thankful for.

Even in hardest times, my life is so rich and so wonderful. I am so blessed to wake up every morning in a warm home with a beautiful family. I am blessed with a husband who is solid as a rock, a rock I often turn to for safety in a storm. I am blessed to have the energy to care for my children and watch them grow. I am blessed to have the time to care for myself. I am blessed with wonderful friends that understand me. I am blessed with opportunities to share my passions with others. I am blessed with laughter and smiles and hugs every day.

I am so thankful.

Sunday, November 20, 2011

My Best Self

It's been a while since I have posted and there are a few reasons.

Number one is that I have been VERY busy.

Number two is that I can't think of much to write about.

That is not to say I haven't had a lot on my mind, but I'm just not sure if you guys would like to hear about it. My head and my heart have been in a bit of a dark place lately, and sometimes it's hard to write about anything else while at the same time you don't really want to write about that at all because then it is out there.

Can I get an amen on that? (I'm writing this on Sunday, so I can preach at you, right?)

I had an interesting conversation with a very good friend of mine this week.  We were talking about how, as people, we are constantly evolving and becoming our most authentic selves - well hopefully anyway.  There is so much that we carry from events that have happened in our lives and from expectations that we place on ourselves and expectations we think others have placed on us, and sometimes the way we want to be conflicts with the way we think we should be. And all of that might conflict with who we are at this very moment. That is a lot of conflict. I guess what is surprising about it all, is that very rarely in my life have I felt this, and now that I'm 37, you would think I'd have it figured out.

I do think that some people probably are content with just floating along and not really delving into the deepest part of themselves, but I'm pretty sure that is not how God intended us to be. So, I will continue to dig deep and acknowledge all the parts of me, even the parts that aren't so pretty, and work hard to be my best self.

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

A Moonlight Romp

Tonight was the perfect night for our annual moon walk. A warm night, a full moon, and two boys full of energy.

The obligatory spooky flashlight picture. 

Can you find them? It was a huge pile of leaves! 

Kel actually asked me if I thought this would make him taller. 

Playgrounds are way more fun in the dark! 

Climbing by the light of the moon. 

Saturday, November 5, 2011

Introducing T2 Multisport

I've been a bit busy the past few months.  Way back in July, my coach, friend and mentor, Mary Eggers, gave me the stunning news that she was moving to a new coaching company. I was excited for her at the same time that I was scared for me.  I had decisions to make involving which direction I would go in terms of my own coach.  More on that to come soon, BUT an even bigger decision and opportunity was given to me by Mary. She asked me if I, with another coach, Kristen Roe, would be interested in keeping her baby, Train This, going. I talked about it with Kel, I prayed about it, I talked about it with Kristen, and after several months of getting things together and a lot of hard work, I am happy announce that Train This will be going forward as T2 Multisport.

The T2 Multisport coaching team consists of myself, Kristen Roe, and Ed Ten Eyck. We are also fortunate to have Jeremy Clay of Bike Loft East on board as our expert bike fitter.

I am currently accepting triathletes for the 2012 season, so if you are thinking about hiring a coach to help you achieve your goals next year, feel free to contact me at  Whether it is your very first triathlon you are training for, or a new distance, or shooting for a PR, I can help you get there with a focus on balance and health. You can also check out our coaching page on our website (that is still under construction...please bear with us!!), follow us on Twitter (@T2Multisport), and like us on Facebook.

Happy training!!