Monday, March 7, 2011

Good Day Snow Day

First of all, let me say thank you.  Thanks to all of you who posted a comment on my last post or who sent me a tweet or an email.  I continue to be blown away by how supportive the blog world is, and it means so much to me.  Sometimes I hesitate to write posts like that because I don't want people to think I'm fishing for empathy.  But I think, for myself, it is more important to be real even if it's not always pretty.  I think most of you really appreciate that more than a fake smile and a cute picture. Anyway, thanks.

We had a snow day here today.  I would post a picture, but it would just look like all of the other snowy pictures I have posted this winter.  It's white, it's cold and it's EVERYWHERE!!  (I am done with winter, in case you were wondering.) Despite all of the snow that has fallen this winter, we have only had 3 snow days total.  Usually a snow day is a pain in the neck, because if I have to drive to Ithaca, well, it takes a really long time.  Also, a snow day on a work day means Ryan has to go to daycare all day, which is not ideal.  Today, however, Ithaca College was also delayed until noon, so I bagged the trip altogether, told the boys we were having a home day, and made a big pot of french press coffee. This snow day was a gift that I so needed.  A chance to have a great day with the boys and rejuvenate my own battered psyche.

The first order of the day (after the coffee was made, of course) was to create the snow day schedule.  This was the first time I've ever done this, but it was a great idea.  I planned some crafts, some painting time, some reading, sledding, free time, rest time and homework time.  It went great.  We pretty much stayed with the schedule until we decided to venture out to Barnes and Noble for some reward books this afternoon.  I didn't get a whole lot done, but that was not really the point of the day.  The three of us had a great day, with very little fighting and hardly any vegging in front of the tv.

It is days like this that make me realize two things:

  1. Being a stay-at-home mom is a really hard job if you are good at it.
  2. I'm very glad I am not a stay-at-home mom.
There are a lot of reasons I don't think I would be very good at being a full-time stay-at-home mom, and I don't really want to go into that.  But I will say, if I were, my house would be a wreck, I would spend way too much time online, and I would probably be very overweight.  I know...kind of counterintuitive, but it's just my nature, I think.  

Having said that though, I have started to really take a hard look at how much I am doing and letting some things go.  This is not an easy task, because I rarely take anything on that I don't feel very passionate about.  But, this past week has really opened my eyes to how much time and energy I need to have available to get the most important things in my life done well.  

So the snow day was productive in the sense that we had a great day, I was able to get my head put on a little straighter, and, by far the one of the biggest victories of the day, I didn't overeat and was even able to give my kids some thin mint cookies without eating one myself.  Now that is a good day.


  1. Kelly,
    I found your blog through the USAT site. I'm doing my first tri this summer. In normal, every day life I am a runner. I used to mountain bike and I've done lap swim for exercise in the past. I'm turing to tris for a new challenge. I plan on doing a minimum of three but now that I'm ready to start training, I get the feeling that I may be in a little over my head. I was thinking about signing up with a coach. I wanted to reach out to you to get an idea of the services you offer, etc. I live in Elmira, NY...about an hour south of Ithaca.

  2. I am with you- I give all the credit in the world to stay at home Moms. I would not be good at it. I have to step back also and make sure the time I do spend with them is optimized.

    Congrats on winning over the thin mints!

  3. I am sick of the snow too. It was COLD here today and I'm just done with it!
    BUT, yay for an awesome snow day!! It sounds like you ended up having a great day together.
    I am a stay at home mom, and you're right, it is not easy, and some days are definitely better than others. Some days I have all the patience in the world, and other days it takes every ounce of strength not to lock myself in my room! :)

  4. nice job saying no to the thin mint! And your realization #2 cracked me UP. Glad we got to see you yesterday : )

  5. Your next snow day-and I hope it's a LONG time from now-I am coming to your house. Your schedule sounds fun :)

  6. I always love your perspective... so sorry to hear you've been walking through a tougher patch!

  7. I could not agree more - I love your honesty

  8. I agree with you. If I was a stay-at-home dad, I have no doubt I'd be bored, depressed, nothing would get done (besides the blog of course) and I'd go into a spiral.

    But you pulled off what seems like a great snow day plan! Glad to hear you don't rely on the tv as a source of distraction. Too many parents to that from what I've seen.

  9. being a stay at home mom is .. uh... well. You already said it. :) Anyone want to hire me? I'm not exactly certain what my skill set is!


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