Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Wonderful You Wednesday: Expectations

Welcome to Wonderful You Wednesday at My Life as a Trimommy.  This is an ongoing series where I will have a post by myself or a guest that focuses on body image and self esteem.

Think about expectations you might have of
people around you.  

I expect my kids to listen to me.

I expect people to be polite.

I expect the cashier at the grocery store to bag my groceries just the way I like.

Now think about this:  Do you have any control over these expectations?

Unfortunately, no matter how hard I try, my kids will only listen to me when they choose to.

Let's face it, there are rude people.  Not everyone is going to be nice.

And, the cashier hardly ever bags my groceries the way I like, despite the fact that I bring my own bags and carefully load up the grocery belt with the items in the exact order that they should be put in the bag, so as to best facilitate unloading in a quick orderly manner with avoidance of fruit bruising, bread smashing and olive bar spillage and minimal plastic bag, sorry about that.

On the other hand, what do do you expect of yourself?

Do you expect yourself to not have the willpower to eat the way you know you should?

Do you expect yourself to walk when the running gets hard?

Do you expect yourself to panic in the water while you are swimming?

The interesting thing about expectations is that while we rarely can control how other people act and think, we have complete control over our own actions and thoughts.  We often set ourselves up for destructive behaviors by expecting those behaviors to happen.  

What would happen if we just started expecting great things of ourselves?  If we took all of the negative expectations we might not even realize we have because they have been ingrained in our very souls and turned them into positive expectations, how would we begin to see ourselves?

My challenge to myself and to you this week, is to take just one expectation and change it.  It is as simple as telling yourself in the mirror what you expect.  Let's see what will happen if we begin to expect great things of ourselves.

What expectation will you change?

“Don't lower your expectations to meet your performance. Raise your level of performance to meet your expectations. Expect the best of yourself, and then do what is necessary to make it a reality.”

Ralph Marston


  1. Lovely post. My husband is always reminding me not to try to control life's variables. My expectation to work on... I have a stressful social event to attend this weekend. Instead of hoping people are sensitive & polite... I will expect myself to be kind to everyone and act with grace no matter what. Thanks for this Kelly!

  2. This is awesome. I had set a goal of running my 1/2 Mary on Sunday in 1:44 but then started thinking I couldn't hold that pace and now after reading this I am going 1:44 or lower. I can do it.

    This is great. Thanks for sharing.

  3. Awesome post!
    My house is a complete mess and I've been trying to put things back in order. However, this usually means that my kids suffer b/c they don't get special "mom" time b/c I'm busy cleaning/organizing/etc. So, I expect myself to put down the sponge, leave the laundry in the hamper, and really "play" with my boys. It is far more important to spend quality time with them then making sure the house is clean. :)

  4. I expect myself to let go and swim. To be streamlined and swim fluidly and effortlessly... and um, faster as a result! :)


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