Friday, June 18, 2010

Fear

Last night to enter my way cool giveaway!!

I am in my 5th week as triathlon coach at my local YMCA.  I am really enjoying it.  I am leading a 12-week group of 11 women who are training for Aflac Iron Girl Syracuse.  I have also been doing some one-on-one coaching sessions.


As I work with these women, I am finding that despite their age difference, body types, level of fitness, ability, and anything else, they all have one thing in common.  It is not a good thing, and I guess it's not surprising, but it is debilitating for most of them.


Their common trait is FEAR.


Almost all of them are afraid.  They are not all afraid of the same thing, but they are afraid of something that keeps them from seeing themselves as they really are...strong, powerful, athletic women.  I speak of these women in particular, but I think this is something that we all face.  Our fears may not be of swimming in a lake, or hopping on a bike, but we have them.  Right? 


I ran in the pool for an hour yesterday and an hour today, so I had a lot of time to think about this.  The cycle we fall into is some sort of fear keeps us from believing we can accomplish something, which in turn makes us doubt ourselves, which brings on negative self-talk, which creates more doubt.  Over and over and over.


For many years I have practiced speaking positively about myself and my life.  I am not always successful, and there are some areas of my life I still struggle to put a positive spin on, BUT I know from experience that the first step to believing something is possible is to stop believing it is impossible.  


WHAT?


Okay.  So if you go around all day long telling everyone you are terrified of the water, what are you going to believe?  You are going to believe you are terrified.  What if, instead of telling everyone about your fear, you said, "I am a swimmer.  I am working to become strong and confident in the water."  Do you see how saying that is going to reinforce your confidence in yourself?  It takes the focus and the attention away from the fear, and shines the light onto a better truth...that you are a swimmer and you are strong and confident.


So, I challenge all of you to take your fears and turn them into better truths that are worth believing in.





You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith.  
~Mary Manin Morrissey

Fear is a darkroom where negatives develop.  
~Usman B. Asif

Many of our fears are tissue-paper-thin, and a single courageous step would carry us clear through them.  ~Brendan Francis

There is much in the world to make us afraid.  There is much more in our faith to make us unafraid.  ~Frederick W. Cropp

To fear is one thing.  To let fear grab you by the tail and swing you around is another.  
~Katherine Paterson, Jacob Have I Loved 

Fear cannot take what you do not give it.  
~Christopher Coan

He who fears something gives it power over him. 
 ~Moorish Proverb

Feed your faith and your fears will starve to death.  
~Author Unknown

9 comments :

  1. The other day, I caught myself in the middle of a conversation, starting to say I wasn't a strong swimmer. The moment I uttered those words, I stopped speaking - realized all the hard work I have been putting in and realized that wasn't true anymore. Fear is still there, but its not the bully it once was.

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  2. Really great post. One of the sayings in my family is "feel the fear and do it anyway"... it has to do with acknowledging that it's scary, but not letting it hold you back or keep you down. Thanks too for the great quotes

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  3. Awesome post! I especially love the last quote. Im racing my a half iron next weekend and I needed that. Thanks for sharing!!

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  4. Thanks for the great post! I will remember all this next time I doubt myself!

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  5. NIce post Kelly. I was just talking about a woman who was giving herself negative talk this morning. It does make you think you cannot accomplish what you truely can!!

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  6. I love this post, and it has reminded me why I signed up for the The Iron Girl, it was to take my mind off of what I really feared, and it isn't swim, bike or run. Thanks for reminding that I have nothing to fear.

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  7. Love the quotes.

    Have you read the series by Oriah Mountain Dreamer? I've been inspired by tidbits, espcially this one... Show me you can risk being completely at peace, truly okay with the way things are right now in this moment, and again in the next and the next and the next..."

    Turning our fears over to our faith is a constant process. He can't help us be at peace with our worries unless we trust. :)

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  8. Thank you - this was beautifully written and so timely! I'm doing the Atlanta Iron Girl this weekend and despite all the preparation and KNOWING that I can do this, I keep finding myself almost frozen in fear.

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