I am in my 5th week as triathlon coach at my local YMCA. I am really enjoying it. I am leading a 12-week group of 11 women who are training for Aflac Iron Girl Syracuse. I have also been doing some one-on-one coaching sessions.
As I work with these women, I am finding that despite their age difference, body types, level of fitness, ability, and anything else, they all have one thing in common. It is not a good thing, and I guess it's not surprising, but it is debilitating for most of them.
Their common trait is FEAR.
Almost all of them are afraid. They are not all afraid of the same thing, but they are afraid of something that keeps them from seeing themselves as they really are...strong, powerful, athletic women. I speak of these women in particular, but I think this is something that we all face. Our fears may not be of swimming in a lake, or hopping on a bike, but we have them. Right?
I ran in the pool for an hour yesterday and an hour today, so I had a lot of time to think about this. The cycle we fall into is some sort of fear keeps us from believing we can accomplish something, which in turn makes us doubt ourselves, which brings on negative self-talk, which creates more doubt. Over and over and over.
For many years I have practiced speaking positively about myself and my life. I am not always successful, and there are some areas of my life I still struggle to put a positive spin on, BUT I know from experience that the first step to believing something is possible is to stop believing it is impossible.
Okay. So if you go around all day long telling everyone you are terrified of the water, what are you going to believe? You are going to believe you are terrified. What if, instead of telling everyone about your fear, you said, "I am a swimmer. I am working to become strong and confident in the water." Do you see how saying that is going to reinforce your confidence in yourself? It takes the focus and the attention away from the fear, and shines the light onto a better truth...that you are a swimmer and you are strong and confident.
So, I challenge all of you to take your fears and turn them into better truths that are worth believing in.